Free From Tension?
Intention + Action = No tension.
“Tension is in vogue!” I was shocked to overhear this statement from a young man who was chatting with his friend in a waiting lounge. He continued, “In today’s world, if you are not having tension it means you aren’t doing enough, you aren’t successful.” He was referring as if being tensed is a style statement, it’s an icon. As if this by itself was not enough he wanted me to participate and support the cause he was championing.
I recalled how there was a phase in my life when I was worried and tensed too. It used to be as if I was doing 24×7 japam of being tensed. People around me would complain how life, and especially god, was not fair to them. It was quiet normal during those moments to find people who would always endorse that life is a struggle. “I am always surrounded by dark clouds of problems and tension,” is what I used to feel. Worrying, like an easy chair, was very easy to get in, but difficult to get out.
Today, when I look back at my life, when I recall all those ‘easy chair’ moments I’m really amused at all those silly things for which I used to worry. (Oh, yeah, today I dare to refer to them as silly things.) What actually were my problems for which I used to worry and get tensed, instead of living life? “My parents don’t love me as much as they love my brother and sisters.” “I’m not as bright in studies as they are.” “I incurred financial losses and thereby debts.” “Nobody understands me.” These were a few of the pretexts for me to worry. Obviously, I ought to be tensed and worried during all these times as I was looking at life through a keyhole. After all, we cannot see the sun, when a penny is kept too close to the eyes.
When I was in that ‘easy chair’ I never understood the simple fact that all the negatives are to be processed in a dark room in order to create a colourful print. So, when I find myself in such a dark room, it must be that He must be processing something very positive and colourful for me. And with a single negative I can create as many positive prints as I want. Today, as a father, I understand that all parents do love their children. The catch here is they love them as they know to love.
Being in the ‘easy chair’ I never realised that I should not be afraid of shadows, especially if I see long, dark shadow cast in front of me. It only means that ‘light is just behind me’. All I’ve to do is to just turn around and I will be facing light and the shadow will leave me. If I cannot find the brighter side of my life, all I’ve to do is to polish the darker side.
Being habituated to the comfort of ‘easy chair’ I never understood the simplicity and the power of the maxim, “I cannot change the wind, but I can adjust my sails.” Today I understand that when the winds of change blow, it’s not the time to build walls, but to build the windmills.
All in all, I’ve understood that these problems are like the water in the ocean, which cannot sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, whatever be the issue, it can’t pull me down unless I let it get on my nerves. All these so called troubles in our life are like a washing machine. They twist, turn, and even knock us around. But in the end we come out brighter and better.
It took quite some time for me to realise that life isn’t about finding myself, but rather it’s about creating myself. And any creation first starts with an intention. It is our intentions that set the direction in which we head in our life. Our intentions are like the rudder of a ship. It will help to change the direction in which our ship is moving. So, in order to give direction to our life, we do so with our intentions, that is, by having good and positive intentions. Perhaps that’s why it’s said that our intentions create our reality.
Of course, whatsoever and how much ever good my intentions are, I need to invest my time on them. My intentions have to be backed by continuous attention and 100% action. My intention is to create myself, which is my future, whereas the time I invest and my actions have to be in the present. It’s only when my intentions are supported with adequate action, it will transpire into what I actually want. If the intentions are not backed by action, then they would be mere wishful thinking. And nothing about my life would change. I will never achieve what I intended to, resulting in disappointments and tensions.
In this journey called life, there would be times when one feels that life is hard. Be thankful if your life is a little harder than you want. After all, a knife cannot be sharpened on a piece of velvet.
To me, the equation for tension-free life is pretty simple. Intention + Action = No tension. This formula works. It’s guaranteed.