I wish to improve. There is always room for improvement in Life…
Wake up. Talk to yourself. Rewind and play every action of yours. Figure and scan out the bloopers. Think and put yourself under the scanner of self-improvement. Consider correcting your bloopers and make plans to remove them from your system. This path leads to perfection and self-improvement.
We are humans. Change and improvement, by default, is installed in our system. All we need to do is install the self-assessing and self-improvement program, in our minds. Attitude changes the face to any approach. Our attitude is makeup to our skill and talent. It makes us more valuable. Attitude is the only thing that can turn our negatives into positives.
Once my aunt said that “You are a very brilliant and efficient person; you complete any given task. With your intelligence and smartness, you could have achieved so much in life; but, there is one attitudinal flaw. That attitude of yours is a big barrier to your success and growth”. She gave me a hint about my problem. I was puzzled. Obviously in a state of denial , I cannot accept or even think about the fault.
“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything”- George Benard Shaw. Deep down in my heart if I cannot accept things about me and puts me through the mode of self-improvement, perfection and success are far from reach.
I started addressing this and began self-analyzing my every action. I wrote down my problem on a sheet of paper. and realized that I have a serious issue with losing my temper when a person does not agree with me. When I cross my limits of reaction in anger. My anger controlled me and ruined the whole efforts I put in to build good relationships. Temper and rage take the form of dominance and rudeness.
Everything falls apart… I never try to understand others’ perspectives. Even if I do, I act rude to make my point clear. My anger overtakes my senses. Once the whole responsibility of organizing the event given to me. Managed everything with all the hard work and planning the skills possessed.
The day of the event came. I was a little nervous but was confident enough. I received compliments from the guests. It is a first-ever family event organized by me.
“Those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything”- George Benard Shaw.
The twist in my tale came towards the end. Well, every guest list will have one person who will be concentrating only on finding faults; my guest list too had one such person. I would have been happy if I was notified personally about the error… tried to rectify it then.
To my discomfort, there is a wild spread of gossip at the party. I was totally mad at that person. To add on to it, it triggered with more rage and blew up. I lost my control and was boiling with anger in front of the guests. All my work and compliments received went in vain. Everything fell apart. Guests remember only my anger and angry words! My parents were disappointed.
Later realized, my anger washed away all the goodness and efforts of mine. If I should have remained calm and composed, I could have achieved my objective. It makes me the person through good communication. Our Beloved Mahatria says, “What to say”, “how to say” and “when to say” are important for a good communicator.”
I should have taken control of my anger and chosen a better time ,place to tell, and what to tell. I could have expressed my opinion in a smart way with the right tone of voice and not with anger. Anyways lesson learned and I wish to improve and change this part of me!