Love people not things

Share This Post

Share on facebook
Share on linkedin
Share on twitter
Share on email
Reading Time: 3 Minutes
Listen Now

Relationship, Are materialistic things more important than human relationships?

 

Kavita aunty, a complete chatterbox and a live wire, left after a month’s stay with us.  My calm and quiet husband wondered from where she gathered the stamina to talk non-stop at the age of 70.  The bedside table in our guest room wore an empty look because the copper water bottle and her medicine kit were no longer present there.  The kit especially was so attractive that I kept thinking of it again and again.  She liked my tiny porcelain salt container and I gladly gave it to her.  The little corner where the container was kept became vacant and I even started missing that relationship.

However, after some time, some sense dawned upon me and I started feeling guilty and ashamed.  I thought, “How can I be so mean?”  I wasn’t thinking of my aunt who spent some time with me and gave me good company.  Foolishly I was thinking of her non-living articles lying in a corner, and I was missing them?  Most of us have the habit of rearranging our homes and think of filling the vacant spaces.  We often miss the little objects that have been misplaced, stolen or broken and we even get upset.  But, how often have we thought of people who create a void in our lives?

Once, I was a witness to my friend’s sister-in-law’s rantings and her nasty behaviour when my friend broke her crockery by mistake.  She was not given a chance to explain, that it fell without any fault on her side.  Furthermore, the

sister-in-law was so upset that I felt embarrassed being present there.

Immature people always want to win an argument, even at the cost of a relationship.  Mature people understand that it’s always better to lose an argument and win a relationship.  Basing her behavior on this logic, my friend preferred to remain silent.  We must keep a distance from people who will never admit that they are wrong and who always try to make us feel like everything is our fault.  Isn’t it true that vulnerable, good and soft-hearted people’s relationships are targeted and not only used but misused too?  But is it correct to take undue advantage of their good nature?  Where has our humanity gone?

“Be careful… that’s my new vase!”

“Handle my things with care!”

“Go out and play; my windowpanes will break!”

“How dare you meddle with my make-up kit!”

We don’t mind speaking rudely and we don’t mind breaking people’s hearts.  We often forget that if we see ourselves in others, it is impossible to hurt anyone else.  Things can be had in plenty; they can be bought, and they can be repaired.  A heart once broken can be mended but the crack is always there.  Let us remember, there are some things that money can’t buy, like manners, morals, love and affection.

Things can be had in plenty; they can be bought, and they can be repaired.

A heart once broken can be mended but the crack is always there.

In our country, we consider it a privilege to have guests.  “Athithi Devo Bhava.”  A guest is considered an equivalent to God.  So, to please our guests and to create an impression, we take a lot of trouble to tidy our homes, purchase gifts for them and prepare good food.  However, I have observed from the moment they step in, our blood pressure rises, and we start getting tense about whether they will spill anything on the carpet or table, litter our home, use the washrooms, etc.  This is more so when the visitor is elderly or a little child.  We forget that we too will age one day, and we do not remember that we were once children too.  As soon as they leave, more than ruminating over the pleasure we derived from their visit, we start cleaning our homes.  A friend of mine is so obsessed about cleanliness that she doesn’t invite anybody home. I wonder, what’s the point of having beautiful homes and no visitors?

In India, we have a habit of borrowing others’ possessions.  We develop such an intimate rapport with people around us that we prefer to borrow things needed for a short duration rather than buying them.  Therefore, it is our duty and responsibility to return the borrowed articles intact.  In case we are unable to do so, the best option would be not to borrow at all.  In such circumstances, it is okay and acceptable for the lender to tell the borrower to take care of his things.  This can be said in a pleasant manner too.  However, we cross the borders of civility and rudely tell people to be careful with our things.  Are possessions more precious than people realtionship?  Life doesn’t allow us to go back and fix the wrongs that we have done in the past, but it does allow us to live each day better than our realtionship last.

Let us be the one who nurtures and builds relationship,

Let us be the one who has an understanding and forgiving heart,

Let us be the one who looks for the best in people,

Let us leave people better than we found them.

LET US USE THINGS… NOT PEOPLE.

LET US LOVE PEOPLE… NOT THINGS.

Subscribe to Our Weekly Videos & Messages

More To Explore

Consistency

Consistency

Listen Now This is the pathway for back-to-back success! Way back in December, Anshul set a goal to lose 15 kg!  With three months of...

Read More
Reaction-and-response

Reaction and Response

Listen Now How can we gift ourselves this maturity to shift from reaction to response? What is the difference between reaction and response? Reaction Reaction...

Read More
Biological-Clock

Biological clock

Listen Now Your body is tuned to a system.  Hence, systematise your routine and stick to a schedule.  This will go a long way in...

Read More

The power of we

Listen Now The blow was severe…  What made them stand with strength? About 6 months ago, my family received an award from the hands of...

Read More
excitement Life awaits

Life awaits

Excitement – What are the return gifts life is expecting from us? My colleague was all excited as we were having a casual chat during...

Read More
everyday-Live

Live

Listen Now How can we live life with ‘Life’? We are living in a busy and fast world.  There is so much we want to...

Read More
Grow but not age.

Grow but not Age

Listen Now Putting days into life is ageing.  Putting life into days is growing.  Let us grow and not age. The hardest aspect of getting...

Read More
business-Weakness

Weakness

Listen Now A way to overcome weakness. In Mahabharata, Duryodhana would repeatedly say, “I know what is right but I cannot indulge in it.  I...

Read More
Likes and dislikes

Likes and dislikes

Listen Now How to go beyond this? Guavas are like coffee: They fill the air with their heavenly smell and announce their presence. Their overwhelming...

Read More
Business, my guru

Business, my Guru!

Listen Now We all know the saying, ‘Work is worship’.  Can we translate that into our occupations? Krishna, a small merchant operating from his compact...

Read More
Do not YELL at me

Do not yell at me

Listen Now Every teen shouts back! Read on to understand why… Way back during my school days, there would be days when I wouldn’t complete...

Read More
Blind spots

Blind Spots

Listen Now Being aware of our blind spots is essential and here is a treatise on understanding it better… What are blind spots?  Blind spots...

Read More
Meri Maa

Meri Maa

Listen Now A touching letter to her mother… Every day at the end of our long phone call, there is still so much unsaid.  Every...

Read More
Funnel

Funnel

Listen Now Minimize spillage with a Funnel…  Try this one For a painter, there are options of thousands of colours to choose to begin his...

Read More
Body Gateway to the mind

Body Gateway to the mind

Listen Now We can train our mind to immediately think positive whenever we face a stressful situation. Most of the health problems are psychosomatic because...

Read More
Harmony

Harmony

Listen Now How can we invite it in all aspects of our life? Harmony is a universal word – a universal state of affairs –...

Read More
Your ROI

Your ROI

Listen Now Here is a rumination of return on investment, both on material and spiritual! A vegetable vendor pulls his cart in our neighbourhood.  His...

Read More
As we think

As we think

Listen Now Triggers that help you most are the ones that make you think the most… The Dhammapada says: ‘You are what you think.  All...

Read More
Proximity

Proximity

Listen Now How much of it do we allow? Leanardo Dicaprio won the Golden globe award for best actor in Jan 2016; he also became...

Read More
Smokeless Tobacco

Smokeless Tobacco

Listen Now Tobacco, in any form, is injurious to health.  There’s no such thing as a safe tobacco product.  All habits start very small, but...

Read More
What is Freedom

What is freedom

Listen Now Celebrating our country’s freedom should go beyond just rituals…   The apartment where I reside had outsourced the August 15th, Independence Day celebrations...

Read More
life-expectations

Ways of life

Listen Now Life Expectations – He who accepts all will survive anywhere in life…   When we are interested in doing something, we are ever...

Read More
feel I am worth it

I am worth it

Listen Now When you feel this, an inexplicable fulfillment descends on you! Being a woman, I can speak for my gender.  However, I am sure...

Read More
Broken Bone

Broken bone…

Listen Now Can an unpleasant incident create so much happiness?   Resolutions are commonly made before the New Year commences or perhaps on the 1st...

Read More
Nature-mother-Giving-Back

Giving Back

Listen Now Nature, Here is a solution to be happy and peaceful…   Man is an intelligent being and lives in a society.  To improve...

Read More
relationship

Love people not things

Listen Now Relationship, Are materialistic things more important than human relationships?   Kavita aunty, a complete chatterbox and a live wire, left after a month’s...

Read More
celebrate

A new day

Listen Now We celebrate the first day of the year as a New Beginning… Isn’t every day a new day?   Every morning is a...

Read More
honesty BOOKKEEPING

BOOKKEEPING

Listen Now Honesty, If we live life with honesty and integrity we not only benefit ourselves but society as a whole. My assistant carried out...

Read More
beleive-BeYOUtiful

BeYOUtiful

Listen Now Beleive, how this youthful author found peace… No one can stop you when you believe in yourself. I remember myself being that happy...

Read More
Entangled

Entangled

Listen Now Science validates the truths which spiritualists knew long before… In Quantum physics, there is a phenomenon called ‘Quantum Entanglement’ which riled Albert Einstein...

Read More

One love

Listen Now Do we know what love is?  Love enriches our lives… During my teenage years, I did not understand what love is all about. ...

Read More

Temper

Listen Now If we lose it, we lose everything… Mr. Ram Kapoor, the HOD of the Department of Psychology stepped out of the Principal’s room...

Read More

The numbers game

Listen Now We make the mistake of quantifying everything in our lives.  But so many things are qualitative, not quantitative. I happened to read an...

Read More

Wish list…

Listen Now Here is a wish list for 2020! 5,4,3,2,1… and the calendar turns yet again. The Chinese lanterns float into the new skies. There...

Read More

Sports reveals character

Listen Now Timothy Philip Timothy Philip – ‘Tim’ Don is a triathlete from United Kingdom. A three-time Olympian, four-time ITU World Champion of triathlon and...

Read More

Prana in Food

Listen Now Eating the right food is good not only for the body but also for the mind. Can we live without food? Probably for...

Read More

Subscribe to Our Weekly Videos & Messages

Connect with us Now

TAT - THIS AND THAT

A few unanswered questions could be slowing down your progress…
Stopping you from being the infinite possibility you are created to be.
Passion OR Profession?
Contentment OR Ambition?
Work OR Family?
Success OR Happiness?
Spirituality OR Materialism?