What is the master key for all relationships?
Two years ago, my husband, Kishore and I dropped off our eighteen-year-old son, Arjun at his university in the United States.
Emotionally, we were stirred to happy tears as we helped him move into the college apartment. The truth that I must share is that we did experience the pain of parting in our hearts. However, the wisdom of our Mahatria is the voice we heard in our head, and that kept our hearts strong. The soothing balm is in his words – that this separation is only a small ‘give up’ on our part as his parents for a big ‘go up’ for the future of our child. We as a family resolved on that day that hereafter every goodbye would be filled with good wishes. We pledged to be responsible for our days apart, to share our achievements, milestones and wonderful times on meeting again. A parting ritual we created for ourselves was a happy family selfie and a big bar of chocolate to enjoy! Our month-long American holiday and adventure of settling Arjun at the university, oceans apart, came to a close.
On the flight back home, we experienced Mahatria live, through the infinipath webcast and Arjun stayed tuned in at his end. Upon landing, the one learning that we all picked up from that infinipath is: For any relationship to thrive in today’s world, one needs to be a friend first. This pearl of wisdom has helped us to grow and be happy with all the changes the three of us experienced. The timing of it was so perfect that we call it our divine blessing, something that we were ready to embrace.
This learning became a guiding light in our life. It’s our master key to make every relationship blossom.
As a family, we are a complete threesome. Now with Arjun away, there is a big void. My life revolved around Arjun. At the peak of a promising career, I happily chose to take a pause from work for a few years to be with Arjun during his adolescent and growing up years. Kishore and I both felt that my role as a mother was most important at that time. Also, there was so much I wanted to learn and explore. It became the perfect time to pursue my hobbies and do all that I’d wanted to do forever. Arjun and I teamed up. It helped us become close friends. We did a lot of things together which only made our bond of friendship grow from strength to strength.
We learned to swim, play tennis, joined dancing classes and also gave ourselves a shot at learning to play a musical instrument. Most of the time, we watched the same TV shows and always shared the books we read. While Arjun studied hard at school, I too enrolled in a few courses online, and we had a healthy competition between ourselves. The one principle we adhered to was that we strive and excel at everything we did.
Kishore too wanted to be part of this team. He wished to enjoy quality time with Arjun. He joined our book reading club and was soon catching up with the music we enjoyed. He introduced a Saturday night movie ritual, a time of family fun. We even included our parents in our movie ritual and since then, we never watched a movie without them. We were and still are a family tied with the thread of friendship. And now the trio of friends, upon drifting apart, only decided to stay happy. We heard from Mahatria , in this infinipath how to remain so. All we needed was to extend this friendship to our world. As I look back and then view our present, I realize how beautifully it’s helping us to grow.
Arjun has made many friends at the university besides his Indian gang of buddies. After going so far away, he wanted to explore and get the most out of the diversity of cultures he is exposed to, learning from one and all.
We too realize it’s easier to fill our void by being friends with all in our world. It was so easy for me to sit alone and feel lonely and sad. But that would have been so depressing for all of us. So, I too adopted the friendship route. From both my mother and mother-in-law to my sisters-in-law to the nieces and nephews to the people in our community and the little ones – the context of the approach to everyone changed. Since I had a clear mindset, it became so much easier for me than I thought it ever would be. It was the same with Kishore. He too approached everyone in his world with warmth and friendliness. It has worked like magic. Two years later, we are still enjoying this bond of friendship in our lives and know it’s only a small beginning. We realized that the more we practice this principle, the easier it becomes. Every relationship is so easy to nurture. Magically, a bridge seems to have sprung up in all our relationships. The bridge we call the ‘Bridge of Friendship’.