Raksha Bandhan is a unique festival of India, celebrating love between a brother and a sister. Mahatria extends the moral of Raksha Bandhan to all family relationships, urges one and all to take a resolve that no one in your immediate circle should feel starved for love.
And one such great cultural contribution by India to the world, is this day called Raksha Bandhan. The ability to acquire a relationship and feel responsible for it. If you are gifted with a relationship in your life, you already have a brother, you already have a sister, you already have a sibling, you have been gifted, wonderful! If you don’t have, you don’t have to live the rest of your life, starve for it. You can always acquire a relationship in life. And through this bonding that you create, that incompleteness in your life can be completed, and such an amazing system called Raksha Bandhan that was given to this world by this culture.
Please understand. Even husband and wife is only an adopted relationship. So many people ask how to adopt a relationship, even in a husband and wife, it’s only an adopted relationship. Some man adopted some woman as his wife and some woman adopted some man as her husband. It’s an adopted relationship. So you can always adopt a brother, adopt a sister, and that incompleteness in your life can be removed and you can have this fulfillment. It’s an amazing contribution by our culture to this world.
What saddens me is, it’s supposed to be Raksha, it’s supposed to be a responsibility. You’re basically saying, as your sister from today, I take responsibility for you, or as a brother from today, I take responsibility for you. We have just turned it into a ritualistic, once-a-year activity. Some of us don’t even call! We don’t even call. Maybe they are part of a WhatsApp group where forwards go, but sometimes for weeks together, months together, you don’t even call your brother and find out how is he doing. It seems relationships are taken for granted.
We don’t even express. We wait for an entire… Suddenly everything is becoming ritualistic and it really concerns me. I want, this year, all of you who have tied the Raksha Bandhan or is going to tie Rakhi, I want you to exercise this year, responsibility, OK? It will not be a ritual. In fact, you’re going to express and demonstrate your love to your sibling so much. You’re going to make them feel very special this year. Very special. Happiness must be demonstrated, and love must be visible. There is no implicit love. “Love is there, they know!” Tell them.
It has to be told. Hug them, cuddle them, call them, send a message when it is neither Brother’s Day or Sister’s Day or Lover’s Day or Valentine’s Day, for everything there is a day now. Obesity Day, everything there is a day now. No, no day. It is simply Wednesday. Send a message saying that, “Thought about you, love you sis.”. “You have been the crankiest relationship in my life”. Let her laugh. Do that. Send a surprise gift somewhere when you are eating and you know she likes it, make a parcel.
Today, if your brother or sister is not here while going back and you know that they like this flavor of Naturals Ice Cream, go buy it and take it. No, they like this. Take it. Take a bouquet and go home. If she doesn’t get heart attack. “My brother!” It might be the beginning of… It’s not what I feel within, it’s the expression of the feeling that makes a difference in relationship and we have to express ourselves. And nothing expresses love like touch. Nothing expresses, the language of love is touch!
Because you said it or because, whatever you do… See when you are in the womb of your mother, the only sense that was active was touch. So oneness to the human psyche is only through touch. Language of love is touch. A brother and sister should never outgrow hugging each other. All brothers and sisters who are here, I want you to hug each other right now. If you have your brother or sister here, I want you to… Now don’t do this! No part-time hug, full-time hug! Get up, face each other, and hug each other.
All there, go, go, go and search! If you can’t find your brother, sister, sing that family song. Nobody in your immediate circle, take this resolve. Raksha Bandhan, brother-sister, leave it. As a mother, as a father, as a friend, take this resolve today in the Satsang. Nobody in your inner circle anymore should ever feel starved for love because you are there in their life. Nobody.