One question. Yeah, you wanted to come, right? Come. Now only he is thinking, what’s the question?
“Loving you, Mahatria, so much. Mahatria, as a parent, how do we direct our children of what they are going to become in the future or what their path or…what they should choose? How do we mould them? Right from, say, schooling or, how do we give them a direction of what they can become?” You want to do that as a grandfather, you want to get it right? Because, with your children, you have missed.
OK Now, from schooling how to direct… One has begun college, the other already behaves like head of the family. Now, from beginning how to? Only when grandfather, you can correct that. What has changed from the parenting of yester-generation to this generation? There is a positive to it, there is a negative to it. So, we have to retain the positive and correct the negative. In the yester-generation parenting, the parents had already decided even before they got married, what their children should become in life. Already.
I will give birth to a son, he will do business just like me, they’ve already decided. OK. Only after that, he got married. OK. I am a chartered accountant; I have seven hundred files. How to ensure this seven hundred files is not passed to anybody else? So, he got married, and worked day and night and produced a child. In fact, the purpose itself, seven hundred files must be transferred. I have built a very good clientele, so my daughter has to become a lawyer, so that I can transfer this entire thing.
So, he got married, and produced children, and ensured that she became a lawyer. So, the yester-generation, so, grandfather. Businessman means father businessman. Father businessman, son businessman, same business also. Whether you like it or not. Same business you will have to do. So even now, in Sowcarpet and all, in some of those chairs, four generations. Bum print is there in the same chair. Chair itself has not been changed. OK.
Something positive that has happened with generation is, we believe that our children should have the freedom of choice, and they should have horizontal exposure. So, we don’t thrust it on our children anymore. We tell them you do whatever you want to do, so we find. Right now, an entrepreneur’s children are taking up career. Children coming from career-oriented families, taking up entrepreneurship.
And, a lawyer’s child is not necessarily a lawyer. A chartered accountant child is, just seeing the dad, has decided, never a chartered accountant. Okay. I will do anything else. Not this. Not every doctor’s children are a doctor anymore. So, I think there is tremendous horizontal exposure right now. And one of the positive trends is, that we realize, horizontal exposure is required, so that the children get to taste many fields. So wherever…
They want to study; we are ready to send them. However long they want to study, we are allowing them to study. However long they want to study, means, by passing, however long. I’m not talking, going on failing and going on studying. Higher education, next education, like that. So, we are ready to allow them to study many things. So, I think great gift right now is, we are not imposing ourselves on our children.
We have given them complete freedom for horizontal exposure. The negativity is, we leave them like this, and they continue to be a wandering generality forever, they never stabilize. They never stabilize, in fact, they’re almost like, trying different items in a cuisine. They keep trying, keep trying. twenty-four comes, twenty-five comes, twenty-six comes, twenty-seven comes, age comes in, and they are not realizing.
See, horizontal exposure makes sense only if you can discover what is your vertical expertise. If you never is going to narrow down at some, and there is no, there is no perfect thing for anybody. See, all of us took a path and grew into that path. There is no perfect thing. You have to keep exploring them. The rest of your life, you will have to keep exploring, keep exploring. At some stage you will have to narrow it down and say, “This is the amount of preparation.”. Just because the foundation should be strong…
Lifelong you can’t keep on building foundation. When building will come? At some stage. You’ll have to focus on that. So, at some stage, you’ll have to say, “I think I’ve done a reasonable amount of work and strengthened my nerves, now the rest of the body I’ve to focus on what?”. Same is the case with everything in life. Now we are getting our systems right, we are getting our policies right. Correct, at some stage, the business has to make money.
You can’t keep on getting systems right and policies right, we are a work in progress, we are looking for investors, how long will you keep? Because nobody is looking for you. So, at some stage, you’ll have to do business. A business is started. So same is the case. Horizontal exposure, at some stage I’ll have to say, “Done.”. Of all the things that I have explored. This is what I’m going to give the rest of my life to. You have to.
So, the negative side of parenting is, we are not thrusting upon vertical expertise on our children. So, we find even into the mid-twenties and late twenties, children haven’t still narrowed down on, what they want to do in life. And that’s dangerous. I think that’s very dangerous. Their whole life will go off like this. Even at thirty-two, thirty-three, they’ll say, “This is not what I want to do, I want to do something else.”.
They will never, ever stabilize in life. So as much as I appreciate, this parental thinking that has come into all of us, horizontal exposure. I think at some stage you will have to make them and sit and say, “Son, now it’s time for us to decide, in what direction, at least we are going to invest the next eleven years of our life, between now to 2030.”. “This is what I’m going to focus on, and I think I need to take it in this direction.” If we don’t, they will argue, because they are used to, we giving them freedom. They are not used to we thrusting upon what is right for them.