The need to be respected is greater than the need for growth in people. So, unless you make the other person feel respected, the other person will not grow in your hands. You cannot be a catalyst in the growth of those who do not believe you respect them. The need to be respected is greater than the need for growth. So, if somewhere if as parents some of you are frustrated feeling, why my children don’t listen to me when I tell them what is good for them?
In the way it is being told, they think they are not respected. And if they feel in the way it is being told they are not respected; they will not grow in your hands. But same thing when that neighbouring uncle says, he listens to somehow, she things he respects her, and she’ll continue to grow in his hands. Your intentions are good. Your intentions are noble. As a parent, you’re not thinking beyond the development of your children and yet psychologically there is a handicap which you cannot overlook. If they do not feel respected, they will not grow in your hands. They will not.
So, even as an organization, if your leadership has to prevail over your second line, third line towards your team, unless your team really believes that you respect them. You respect their capabilities; you respect their talent pool. They will not grow in your leadership. And if your team is not going to grow in your leadership, then you will not grow as a team leader. So, it is very, very important to recognize the need for respect is greater than the need for growth. So, you can help people to grow with you, through you, only if you help them to understand you respect them.