Our minds are conditioned to view every role as a status. Mahatria explains the significance of taking responsibility to improve all your relationships. He illustrates this with insights ranging from marriage, parenthood to corporate roles. See life with a renewed sense of responsibility.
To be born as a human being is not a status, it’s a responsibility. To be given this form, the greatest of all the creations of God, there’s no point in me being arrogant about it, saying that I am the greatest of all the creations of God. There is no point in me being arrogant, saying that as a human being, I have the power to destroy anything or create anything. It’s all up to me. To be born as a human being is not a status, it’s a responsibility.
For a man and a woman to get into a marriage and becoming husband and wife, husband and wife is not a status. It’s a responsibility. Till now, I had to focus only on my life. I am responsible, not just for one more life, in her happiness lies her family’s happiness. In his happiness lies his family’s happiness. So each one of us now are assuming the role and responsibility of another family’s happiness. It’s not a status, it’s a responsibility.
Husband and wife choosing to become father and mother by producing a child. Every child parented well is a blessing to the society. Every child not parented well becomes additional load on the society. Because whatever may be the deficiencies in parenting, the society has to make up. Part of my parenting, I have never said no to my child, son or daughter. I mistook pampering to be love.
And my child has grown up in a parenting, from mama or papa, all the time hearing “Yes!” for everything in the name of love. Now, this child goes to a job, cannot accept ‘no’ from any colleague. Cannot accept ‘no’ from the organization, she will resign. Every relationship, she is a darling for two weeks and a pain two weeks later. You know, those people, all of you can relate to. You love them instantly and hate them immediately.
The first time you see, it will be love at sight. You relate to them for two weeks, you feel “What have I got stuck into?” because they cannot handle ‘no’. Get this grown-up child married, she cannot, or he cannot accept ‘no’. He wants sex now, he wants sex now. She wants to go out now, she wants to go out now. Anybody, any environment says ‘no’, then she’ll threaten the relationship. “I don’t want to be in this relationship where there is no respect.” Why? Because she never heard a ‘no’ and suddenly somebody is saying ‘no’ to it.
One parenting mistake that I didn’t let my child understand, that love need not be tender. Sometimes it has to be tough. I didn’t know the difference between pampering and loving. Because I could not be there for my child as much as I wanted, to come out of this guilt, I became an ‘yes’ father. So what little time I have, I’ll keep on saying ‘yes, yes, yes’ and now, she benchmarks her husband with her father.
If I had asked my father, he would have said, “Yes, you have not. If you liked your father so much, you should have stayed with the father! Not got a husband in your life. And he is not going to be your father.”. She’s not going to be a mother. “My mama never used to be like this.” You should have stayed with mummy! You should have stayed on her lap. Why you got married? Why did you become an adult only, in the first place? Becoming a father and mother is not a status. It’s a responsibility.
Being promoted from being a sales executive to a sales manager is not a status. I got promotion. Till now, as a sales executive, you are only accountable for your own success. Till now, as a sales executive, you’re only responsible for your own success. Now, as a team leader, you have to make every team member of yours succeed, you’re responsible for the entire team’s success.