Question: Why should one be happy for others, when you are not happy from inside?
Answer: You cannot be happy for others If you are not happy from inside. If you are not happy from inside, you can only act as if you are happy for others, you cannot be happy for others because these two are unquestionable eternal truth. One, you cannot make those happy who are not happy with themselves and if you are not happy with yourself you cannot make other people happy.
A flower cannot give a fragrance that it does not have, a flower can only share the fragrance with the world that it already has. I can only give you what I have. If I have ignorance, I can only give you my ignorance. If I have knowledge and clarity then I can share this knowledge and clarity and wisdom with you.
When Jesus Christ said love thyself and then he said love thyself as you love. Love thy neighbor as you love thyself. He did not say, love thyself as you love your neighbor. Why did he say, love thyself? Why did he put love thyself first, why did he say love thy neighbor as you love thyself simply because if I don’t have love within me I cannot love anybody else.
If I have hatred within me, I can only share my hatred with the world only if I have love with me, I can share my love with the world. Why did Mahaveera say live and let live. Jio Jene dho. Why he did not say…hey suppose to be selfless know why Mahaveera cannot say, Jene dho Jio. Keerthi Guptha, so much understand what I am saying that, why did he say Live and Let Live because Mahaveera understood, if you yourself do not know how to live, how will you help anybody else to live? How can you let live if you even don’t know how to live?
If I have prosperity Keerthi…I can share my prosperity with others, if I have poverty? I can only my poverty with others. Can a beggar help another beggar.? If I am myself begging for love in life, you think I can be a source of love for others. If I am myself begging for happiness in life, you think I can be a source of happiness to others.?
A flower can only give the fragrance that it have and unless you have the fragrance of happiness within you, you cannot be a source of happiness to anybody. So there is no question about you asking, why should one be happy…no, you cannot be , you can act as if you are happy, the journey has to begin with first you making yourself happy in life.
Of course a natural question that you will ask , is that how do I become happy in life,? I can probably speak up to my last breath on the subject, but If you want a simplest answer to be happy in life, stop asking god why me, why me for all your troubles and start asking god why me, why me for all your blessings. Simply put learn to practice gratitude for what you already have and you will have more. Live with regrets even with all that that you have, eventually what you have also will be taken away from you.
Didn’t the parable in bible so beautifully explained? Take the man who used his talent and give him more. In fact take away the talent from people who are not using and give it to the man who is using the talent. When I practice gratitude for what I already have, you will have more and more of it, you will have most and more of it and when you live in eternal regret in spite of whatever you have, not only you will not know how to cherish what you have, you will also begin to lose what you have. One simple shift…no matter what the challenges of life is, one simple shift from today vouch, from this moment vouch you will no more ask why me god for all your troubles and you would only keep asking why me god for all your blessings, look at life through the spectacles of blessings.
We have this nasty habit of holding all the troubles of our life so close to our eyes, it blinds of seeing all the blessings in our life. A piece of wood held too close to the eyes will cover the entire sun. Hold it at a distance and its only piece of wood. Similarly when you hold the troubles of your life, even if they are far and few too close to you it blinds you of the possibility of seeing how wonderful your life is. Keeps the troubles at a distance, in fact look at your troubles on the strength of the blessings you have and you will see that all these struggles can be managed. The sign of a happy man to be is one who is heart always beats in gratitude.
